Over extending yourself can be an easy routine to fall into. Even outside of grief, we can often find ourselves adding more to our schedules, saying yes to more events than we can show up for in a healthy mindset, or taking on too much.
Within the holiday season, we can find ourselves saying yes to more than a doable amount of parties, gatherings, or events. Adding more to our to do list can cramp our time to meet other needs, and take our focus off of what matters most to us. The same is true for us in grief. Especially in the holiday season, it's important for us to keep boundaries that keep us comfortable.
Saying no, leaving early or arriving late, or making alternative plans to big events can be helpful first steps to keeping our own best interests at the forefront of the season. Maybe you say no to a big group event, but make smaller plans when you're feeling up to it. While you might feel pressure to make an appearance at an event, it's important to remember that you need to do what is best for you first.
Visualize what a healthy amount would be for you. Maybe you'd be comfortable with weekly events or socializing. Maybe you would be more comfortable with one on one activities, and meet up with loved ones and friends over coffee instead of at large group functions. Maybe you buy fewer presents for everyone this year, but include a heartfelt card instead. Whatever the stressor is for you, avoid over extending yourself.
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